Writing & Righting : Live a Good Story

Hello, dear readers! Let’s take a moment to address two exciting things that are probably rather obvious to you :

1. There is a .com after my name. What that WHAT?! Yeah folks, I’m like all legit now. A big ginormous THANK YOU to Darrell Vesterfelt for hooking me up with my new space!

2. Just in time for my new site, I’m joining more than a dozen other talented writers in a one day blog series for Prodigal Magazine that asks :

What does it mean to live a good story?

I hadn’t intended for these two things to coincide, but I think it makes sense today to address this idea of living a good story, and what is has meant for me since I started this blog in May 2009.

Someone asked me a while ago about the name I chose for my blog.

Why “She Writes and Rights”?

Most people can make a good guess about the idea of editing, of learning to be a better writer, but I have never really told that story. There was really no catalyst or epiphany that led me to it, and I don’t remember other monikers I contemplated or what sparked this particular idea.

What I do remember about that time is me, laying on a borrowed twin-sized bed surrounded by unpacked boxes in my friend’s apartment, and I was completely restless with my life, restless with the blank space on my resume where my future was waiting. I had just graduated from college a few days before and I was getting married in three months and I smelled like bacon grease because I had just come home from my waitressing job at a hoity-toity breakfast restaurant that I had grown to hate.

And I felt hopeless and daydreamy in that stupid, self-pitying, nothing I want will ever happen for me kind of mood. I wanted an undefined more that I knew, vaguely, involved writing rather than waitressing, along with financial stability, career credibility.

I wanted to be a writer, but I felt totally inept. I didn’t know any writers. I didn’t know how to get published. I didn’t know where my career was going. I worried that if I was indeed a writer, then I was surely destined to be one of the crazy ones, the kind that writes one good book and then freaks out and puts her head in the oven while her kids play in the living room. (I was deep in the melodrama that day.)

And I just wanted to do something that mattered.

I didn’t know if blogging was it, but I wanted to try it. It sounded better than staying in that awkward horizontal position, head propped up by pillows, chin to chest, staring at my computer screen as it balanced on my stomach, while I clicked mindlessly through Facebook and debated my sanity.

And so I just did it. I started a blog.

And I hoped that the “writes and rights” part would leave room for me to stop and start and try, try again until the act of writing and sharing it with others regularly became habit, every post a small step in the right direction… Bird by literary bird.

Slowly, the lone little island of my blog became a community I could connect with about my creative life. Slowly, my words and thoughts have moved from writing about writing to actual writing, real reflections on the world around me and the chapter I’m living in the bigger Story of who we are and why we’re here.

This is the truth at the heart of “She Writes and Rights,” and it’s as much about the way we live our lives as it is about the way that we learn to write :

We are not finished. We are works in progress.

We love it when a character is moved to action and change, adventure! We love it when something effects them deeply, and they are forced to move from sitting inert on a twin bed in the post-college, woe-is-me melodrama, to living, to being who they are called to be. We love them even when they get it wrong all wrong and throw their hands up and say who the hell knows what all this means, and when they try, try again to find the truth.

Because we’re all writing and righting as we go.

We’re living in the creative tension of choosing to serve some greater purpose, some Story jam-packed with action, adventure, change, risk, radical Love.

What does it mean for you to live a better story?

  • http://missalice12.blogspot.com/ Alyse

    I can’t wait to read your new musings! Just subscribed!

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      Thanks, Alyse!!

  • http://rebootingworship.com Jamie Kocur

    What does it mean for me to live a better story? I think simply TRYING. Instead of laying around whining about all the things I don’t like about life, taking a bold step of faith and trying the things that matter to me.

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      That is so true, Jamie! Blogging has been one long exercise in teaching myself to try, and to grow as a result. Thanks for your comment!

  • http://www.leighkramer.com HopefulLeigh

    Love your new space, Bethany! Gorgeous reflection and explanation of our works in progress selves.

    • Kim Taylor

      A good story requires characters with depth. I want to live below the surface with people. Good stories also require a rich and varied plot. I want to see interesting places, do exciting things, but also stay steady enough to finish what I start. I want all the richness of the best and worst of life to make me the best main character in a story that would not only be worth reading, but would add value to the lives of those who read it. Your story sure does that for me Bethany! Best wishes for your new adventure!

      • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

        “I want to live below the surface with people.” – I love this whole comment, Kim, but especially this part. Thank you! That’s such an inspiring way to express that.

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      Thanks, Leigh!! :)

  • http://www.kshermphoto.com/blog/ Kevin Sherman

    Nice! I like the new branding, especially the pronunciation key in the top right!

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      Thanks, friend. :)

  • hollie

    Congrats, Bethany. It’s beautiful. Looking forward to hearing more from you, as always.

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      Thanks, Hollie!!

  • http://sadiedear.blogspot.com Sadie

    Your site is beautiful, the name is perfect, and I love the approach! Well done, all around.

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      Wow, thanks Sadie!

  • http://cajoh.blogspot.com CaJoh

    So glad to see you have a space to call your own. Your stories so far have been exciting to read. Cannot wait to see what new developments can be expressed now that some of the restrictions have been lifted.

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      Thanks, CaJoh!

  • Moriah

    congrats on the new url! I’m so glad your aren’t “one of the crazy ones” because I very much enjoy your work and hope to be inspired by it for many years to come :)

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      Thanks, Moriah!

  • alli

    Congratulations on the new site! It is beautiful and so are your words here.

  • http://www.spankyandsarah.com Sarah Reijonen

    Couldn’t have said it better myself! I can completely relate to that feeling of wanting to write and serve a bigger purpose, but just not knowing what that is – all the while, thinking I might be one of those head-in-oven types. I laughed when I read that because I have actually written that before and pray I won’t be a crazed artist. :) Thanks for sharing!

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      It’s such a silly fear when I really stop to think about it. I have the power of perspective to help me stay sane, I just have to do the things that keep me healthy… like reading, being open with people close to me, and blogging. That’s why I chose to write about diligence in my latest post. If you create a structure for yourself, it can keep the anxiety at bay.
      Thanks for reading, Sarah!

  • http://inspirationandroughdrafts.blogspot.com/ Melissa

    “We are not finished. We are works in progress.” So true… which is part of the reason I named my own blog what I did. I want to be okay with the imperfection, the “rough drafts” of life. Congratulations on the beautiful new site! Very exciting!

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      I love the name for you blog for that very reason, Melissa! Thanks for always being supportive. :)

  • http://inhisloveministries.blogspot Pilar Arsenec

    Excellent post. I enjoyed it. Congratulations too. :)

    • http://www.bethanysuckrow.com Bethany

      Thanks, Pilar! :)

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